Don't Let These Mistakes Stand In The Way of True Intamacy

Most people want a healthy and loving relationship, otherwise why would they bother?  But not everyone knows how to get it right or how to make it work.

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Here are a few mistakes and how to avoid them (adapted from Dr. Bea M Jaffrey):

• Forgetting Mental Foreplay ~ This is especially true for women. It starts with her mind. Sometimes it can even start days before. But men can get in on the benefits too. Send a sentimental text. Remind  them of the reasons you fell in love with them. Get take-out and have a picnic on the living room floor. Be creative. It's true when they say it's the little things that count.

• Not Being Best Friends ~ I know this sounds cliché but it's true. You enjoy most things better with your best friend. When it's your lover it's the same. They should be your best friend. Take time to laugh together, share with one another and make sex a priority.

• Too Much Pornography ~ Watching porn is okay and sometimes it's a great stimulant and it can be something that you two can do together. But when it gets in the way of or replaces being intimate with your partner then it's a problem. Balance is the key.

• Not Having An Orgasm? ~ This mostly affects women, but men can suffer from it too. Statistics say that 95% of men reach orgasm when having sex with a partner, but only 69% of women do the same (Richters et al., 2006). You may need to employ other practices to reach orgasm. Try out different positions and other types of stimuli to reach optimum satisfaction. Win-Win!

Reach out and touch someone you love today!